Basic Beauty Tips
May 2, 2009
How many times do you look at yourself in the mirror and desire to have a prettier face, a brighter and a glowing face? Most of us have the desire of looking pretty and beautiful and when we are unable to meet our desire,we often curse the Almighty for having provided us with a not-so-pretty face. However, your beauty lies in your hands and it is up to you to make your skin naturally healthy and beautiful.
We all undertake the wild search for beauty products and secrets. But the most basic and simple secret towards a beautiful skin is by re-connecting with nature. That is to Read more
Beautiful women ‘more likely to be unfaithful’: Study
January 15, 2009
Agencies
London It may not be always true, but a new study says that some pretty women are more likely to have extra-marital affairs because of a sex hormone which is linked to attractiveness and flirtatiousness.
Researchers have carried out the study and found that women who have high levels of oestrogen not only look and feel beautiful but are also more likely to be unfaithful to their partners, the ‘Biology Letters’ reported.
According to them, these women engage in “opportunis- tic serial monogamy” — being open to flings and moving on to a new Read more
Ways to bring happiness in life
January 15, 2009
Undoubtedly we all run after happiness all throughout our life, instead of creating it for ourselves. The daily busy schedules of our life that includes 9-5 jobs, tight office deadlines, household chores, children’s responsibilities etc all together left us with very less time with ourselves. If same things are happening in your life too, then don’t panic! Here are some easy ways that if you incorporate in your daily life will improve your otherwise dull and boring life with lots of happiness and cheerfulness.
It is a widely known fact that a man is not hurt so much by what happens, as by his opinions of what happens. So always try to keep an optimistic approach towards life. No matter what Read more
Hairstyles for Thin Hair
January 5, 2009
Your hair are falling and becoming thin, but you wouldn’t like the world to know about it. Many young women and even men face the problem of hair loss and hair thinning due to various factors like stress and use of harmful chemicals. In a looks centric world, keeping your best look forward is the key to success. Thus, even if you are facing the trouble of thin hair, there are ways by which you can effectively hairstyle yourself for that perfect look. Given below are such helpful hairstyles for thin hair.
If you have thin hair, then you should avoid long hair. This is because the longer the hair, the thinner look they depict. Instead opt for short hairstyles as they provide your hair with greater volume and lift. Short bobs are another effective hairstyle for thin hair. If you have curly hair, then you are lucky and can even keep your hair long as they naturally help in providing hair with a voluminous look thereby Read more
What is the right age to marry-read it out
January 5, 2009
Millions of people tie knot every year because it is a norm that we all have to follow. But how many of us really know about the right age of marrying? Some says the right age of marrying is when you are absolutely jaded and feel there is nothing left to explore in life. Some believes to secure themselves financially before tying the knot with the other person.
There was a time when 25 year old unmarried girl invited enough fodder to fill a stable, but not any more. The total concept of marrying has undergone a lot of change. Welcome to this new world, where love is just another virtue and marriage is a destination not so eagerly awaited. Marriage is certainly a necessity which provides you emotional and financial security plus acceptance in the society. It provides you someone special who makes you feel special throughout your lifetime and be with you throughout ups and downs of life. But still, one should marry only when one really feels it is required not under Read more
Are big breasts always beautiful?
August 5, 2008
There’s no ignoring them; Claudia Croft explains why we are mad about mammaries
Claudia Croft.
It’s official. The summer of 2008 is all about cleavage. There hasn’t been a heat wave, flood or hurricane, Big Brother is boring, Glastonbury didn’t rock any boats and England weren’t at Euro 2008. So, the nation has filled the hole left by the absence of a single galvanising event with an awful lot of tit talk.
We gasped in awe at Helen Mirren’s magnificent, sixtysomething bikini-clad bosom, emerging from the sea like the proud bow of a ship – she has now graduated from national treasure to national treasure chest. We were scandalised by Sienna Miller flaunting bare-naked bee-stings while on holiday with her married boyfriend. And we worried that Jordan’s ever-morphing mammaries would get in the way of her Olympic dressage dream.
Nothing lifts and separates Brits more than breasts and how they are dressed. Big or little, it’s how you wear them that counts. For some, cleavage is a good thing. (Kelly Brook has made a career out of hers.) How else do you explain the popularity of the new boob jab?
This year’s most talked about plastic-surgery procedure involves injecting breasts with the filler Macrolane. Less invasive than a boob job, it will plump up those puppies by an extra cup size, costs about £3,000 and lasts for up to 18 months.
For others, however, mammaries mean trouble. Royal Ascot banned cleavage and visible bra straps in a bid to raise the tone of the event. Even the downturn in sales at Marks & Spencer’s was blamed, by ageing shareholders at the AGM, on too many cleavage- revealing dresses. The company’s boss, Stuart Rose, was attacked by the pressure group Busts 4 Justice after it emerged that the store charged £2 extra for bras with a cup size over DD. The group now has nearly 6,500 members, all agitating for equal treatment of large-breasted women. “It’s bigger than M&S. It’s about the whole high street. We are a market force, and they should respect us,” says Beckie Williams, the 25-year-old founder of the pressure group. “In the past, large-breasted women have accepted poor service and bad design. There’s enough of us now to demand more. We should be treated better.”
She’s right: thanks to boob jobs, boob jabs and the general increasing size of women, there have never been more big breasts. (The average UK bust size has risen from 34B to 36C in less than a decade.) So the question of display has never been more pressing.
HOW LOW SHOULD YOU GO? MRS MILLS ON CLEAVAGE ETIQUETTE
* What you must realise about displaying your cleavage is that men will look. They cannot help themselves. The area of flesh between the breasts has an ineluctable power over the male gaze. This is a good thing and can be used to your advantage.
* If you wake up with a huge spot on your chin, you can’t face sorting your hair out or psoriasis has broken out over your nose, undo a few buttons and your self-confidence should return.
* Because the cleavage is a sexual display, there are occasions when it is inappropriate. Receiving communion, supervising young offenders’ community projects and, especially, school sports day spring to mind. People (for which read other women) will assume you are desperate and looking to grab a man. So, cover up – unless, of course, you are desperate, and don’t mind being regarded by your flat-chested sisters as a scheming tart when all the fathers present are glued to your perky performance in the egg-and-spoon race, hot in anticipation of more than the egg bouncing out.
* Traditionally, good taste dictates that one should display breast or leg. Only prostitutes flaunt both, so have a care, unless you are looking for more adventurous ways to supplement the housekeeping.
* How low you go depends on your nerve and sense of adventure – though, if your nipples pop out, you’ve probably gone too far. As a general guide, the later the hour, the more you can display. What is alluringly sophisticated over dinner in the evening is slappertastic on the bus to work each morning.
* There is much debate about the age at which one should start covering up. Obviously, it can vary. A few summers of topless sunbathing can give you crepy, wrinkled jugs by your mid-thirties, while a woman who has kept them covered might have smooth, milky-white orbs right through her sixties.
* As soon as you can have a conversation with a man in which his gaze only briefly slips below your chin, you have reached the point of covering up.
* While a good display of cleavage can be useful in making difficult meetings with bosses and bank managers go more smoothly, be aware that too much cleavage can make a man deaf: “Hmm, what? Sorry, I was miles away.” It’s not only men who need to learn how to handle breasts with care.
TALK TO ME, NOT MY BREASTS: THEY MAY BE LARGE, BUT CAMILLA LONG HAS LEARNT TO LOVE THEM
I’ve always been thrilled with my 34DDs – let’s just say the conversation rarely flags – but sometimes enough is simply enough. You want to hide them away from prying eyes and spaghetti fingers. (“Oops, sorry, thought that was the… light switch.”) You want to say goodbye for ever to sweaty summer rigging and enormous orthopaedic bras; goodbye to flesh-coloured straps (why, if they’re meant to be invisible, can you always spot them at 50,000 paces?); goodbye, even, just once before I die, to bras altogether.
So, yeah, living with big breasts can be a bore. And, as a DD, I’m nowhere near the crippling turbo-melon category. Those poor women who wake up to find their airways blocked! Unlike them, my breasts do not constitute half my body weight and all of my personality; there are not, at any given time, three old Etonians down there on a charity toboggan run. Still, I’ve had to learn how to handle them (steady, chaps) with due respect.
It has taken 15 years. At first, I hated them. The tricky teens, when everyone is staring and snapping your trainer bra and making you want to die. Then, in my early twenties, I started to love them – perhaps too much. They were out the whole time, public property, a whole new currency, even: there’s not a bouncer in London who won’t let you in for a quick flash (and I have researched this). Then there is later, now, when I’ve finally worked out that covering up at least 1% of the time is more punchy than constantly showing them off. I have learnt to apply the element of surprise.
I have learnt many other things, too. That nobody brushes past you “by mistake”. That martinis are a death trap, because you can lose olives down your cleavage and nothing will make you feel more pig elegant than that. That clay-pigeon shooting is totally out (such a pity, because I do have talent). That high necks are impossible, while low ones make you look like a barmaid. That there’s nothing like a pair of big bangers – “the cavalry”, as a friend calls them – to settle the matter.
I abide by three rules: 1) Getting them fully out is a no-no, even if you’re in the south of France. It’s nothing to do with unsightly saggage – only sluts go topless. 2) Using them in the boardroom is provincial. A girl in a suit with tidemark foundation and big boobs out for all to see is the female equivalent of a short, balding businessman with two mobiles. Just watch the next series of The Apprentice. 3) Never, ever, wish to have small ones. Ever! Even in the face of a tank top. The French say that a woman without breasts is like a bed without a pillow, and they are right. A friend who tried big prosthetics for a day reported that large ones were “very, very fun – everyone perked up when they saw me”.
Case closed.
As for men, never believe them when they say they prefer smaller ones. They’re just trying to be arty, nice to their girlfriends – or there’s something really wrong. (“Sorry, which bit is the breast again?”) Most of them are in denial.
As my friend James insists – he likes “small ones … firm to the touch and the right shape and feel. I only look at large ones to check I haven’t changed my mind”.
YOUR BIGGEST ASSETS: SOPHIA NEOPHITOU, EDITOR-IN-CHIEF OF 10, THE HIGH-FASHION MAGAZINE, EXPLAINS HOW TO DRESS YOUR BREASTS TO IMPRESS
My colleagues say I have balls of steel when it comes to business, but my secret weapon – my nuclear missiles, as I call them – are my 34F breasts. My bosom suggests I might be motherly, kind and soft, and acts as a highly effective distraction. I use my boobs in the same way other women might use their big, blue eyes. They have a hypnotic effect on people. They are disarming. People aren’t threatened or intimidated by you if they can see your feminine side – and breasts are the most obvious sign of femininity.
The most important thing about big breasts is to wear them properly. If you want to look good, you have to accept your shape and dress to suit it. I’m 5ft 4in, medium build, with hips and tits. That’s the reality. But having big breasts isn’t easy when you work in fashion and have to look the part. Many designers routinely make clothes for a skinny, boyish silhouette, but that doesn’t mean I can’t wear the best labels. It’s all about knowing who and what to buy.
I work with Roland Mouret and Antonio Berardi, and my closet is full of their form-fitting clothes. Other labels that work for me include Alaïa for knits and skirts, Dolce & Gabbana, for dresses, Balenciaga, for trousers, pencil skirts and knits, Ann Demeulemeester, for vests, Burberry, for coats, and Martin Margiela, for tailoring.
It takes energy to dress your breasts properly. There are no short cuts. I have developed a uniform: fabulous heels, a masculine vest with a pencil skirt and a fitted cardigan. That’s what suits me.
Bras are extremely important. I don’t want to wear an industrial tit sling, so I go to Agent Provocateur, which makes bras to order, (not Rigby & Peller, because I don’t like thick straps). Stella McCartney and Myla are also favourites, because they do supersexy styles in big cup sizes. I’ve got a small back, which makes buying bras even more difficult, so I often buy one with a larger back size – a 36F, say – and have it adjusted by a seamstress. I do that with bikini tops, too, because it’s so important that they fit properly.
I always wear fitted shapes. Anything billowing and baby-doll is not for a girl with boobs. It makes you look fat, because the fabric falls outward. Women my shape look best in contoured clothes. If you don’t want to do a fitted body-con look, wear bias-cut dresses and tops that skim your curves.
I’m very conscious of necklines. I would never wear a polo neck: they make my breasts look like a table under my chin. Round necks aren’t great, either, but scoop, boat and V necks are. You need to see some skin, but it doesn’t always have to be cleavage or bare. Sometimes I wear a low-cut Roland Mouret dress with a sheer cotton T-shirt underneath.
A masculine-cut jacket with a great shoulder line also works for me, otherwise my look can be too feminine. I can also do a classic mac or a Crombie[-style coat. Block colour gives a continuous silhouette.
I never wear blousy sleeves, or chunky knits, or frills, or pleating across the bust, and smock dresses are wrong, too. I would also never wear a dirndl skirt – I’d look a mess. And have you ever seen anybody with big breasts look good in a floral frock? It doesn’t work. I would feel like Beryl Reid in Entertaining Mr Sloane.
I don’t know what it would be like to be flat-chested; it’s difficult to speculate about it. I know my breasts are big – and I know I’ve got to make the most of them being there.
Courtesy: Times Online
The rise of Dolly Parton feminism
July 29, 2008
From The Sunday Times
In a post-Sex and the City world, there’s a new kind of female camaraderie that’s loud, proud and not at all cool
Jessica Brinton.
What a view Dolly Parton must have had from the stage at the O2 earlier this month. Twenty thousand girl disciples — for the audience was almost exclusively women, with a smattering of loyal gay followers — gazing up at the lady like she was Jesus. “Oh, you’re looking so good!” she told her fans in the front row. “You’re so well lit!”
Then Dolly — in the flesh, not unlike Kenny Everett’s Cupid “All in the Best Possible Taste” Stunt alter ego — launched into Islands in the Stream and 9 to 5, and the arena was on its feet. As we streamed out afterwards — via the stand selling pink-fur-trimmed Stetsons — back to our boyfriends, husbands, kids, jobs and normal everyday things, we felt loved, respected, welcome and important, like we were part of something bigger than, and also entirely about, us. The Dolly magic had worked.
Dolly’s roof-raiser was the latest example of a noticeable social trend, one that we shall call, obviously, “dolliness”, after the woman who embodies its spirit. Think of the Spice Girls tour and the Sex and the City film. The gaggles of hatted, stilettoed ladies ricocheting around the races and the tennis. Coleen on her extended hen weekend; Cheryl Cole escaping her husband in Thailand with team Girls Aloud; and that later addition to the ladies-only canon, the baby shower. They constitute a new form of female camaraderie that, while clearly not new, is suddenly out, proud and quite deafeningly loud.
Last Friday, I was invited to a friend’s birthday at a private karaoke bar, with 10 thirtysomething professional women. Do I really need this, I thought, picturing a night in on the sofa with my boyfriend and Jonathan Ross. But I went. And it turned out to be one of the most vital, liberating evenings I’d had in ages. We drank, we sang — caterwauled actually — and in the spaces between the songs, there were truths told, real poignant honesties about life, love, work, family, the sort of straight-to-the-heart-of-the-matter stuff that men tend to see as the dog work of married life. The evening only came to a close when a well-known TV news presenter and mother of one failed in her attempt to stop the manager turning off the system by throwing herself bodily against the door.
There are those who would find a pathos-laden oestrogen-fest like this difficult. A group of grown-up women out on the razz is rarely cool — or sexy, in the traditional sense. But so what? When the rest of life is a performance, a game of pretending to be a grown-up, a complete cool-void can be a relief.
“We do, among other things, cabaret, apple-bobbing and three-legged races,” says Marisa Brickman, a 29-year-old member of Girlcore, an all-girl collective that runs one of the most queued-for club nights in London. (Demand is such that Girlcore recently began to let in boys.) “We have a dress theme — this time, it’s summer camp. Girls are sillier than dudes. They know that if you’re trying to be cool, you’re not having fun.”
Clothes are important, let’s not pretend otherwise. Dolly does cartoonish embonpoint, candied hair, 6in jewel-encrusted mules and a high camp “it cost me a lot of money to look this cheap” parody of sexy that belongs exclusively to her. Dressing up for girls is a special kind of dressing up — very different from the boy version.
“Girls have an educated eye; they appreciate it in a way that men don’t,” says Emma Lawrenson, 32, a big spender at Cricket in Liverpool, who goes on jaunts with her girlfriends once every three months. “We’ll stay in my flat and we’ll be hanging things up on the rail, saying, ‘Oh my God, what are you wearing?’ And I’m as excited by what they’re wearing as by what I’m wearing.”
And it’s a nonsense that conversations at girl-only nights are just “women’s talk”. Last year, the art curator Isabella Macpherson held a series of girls’ networking dinners. What started out as a few women — among them June Sarpong and the writer Kathy Lette — gathering at the home of Ronnie Ancona became a monthly fixture for 30 or more. Sometimes the conversation was about about the burqa; sometimes nail varnish. Usually both.
Clearly the best bit about female camaraderie is being jolly, jolly nice to each other. An American craze earlier this year was girl-only “branding parties”, which involved trusted friends being frank with each other about where they could make improvements in their lives. If used wisely, what an extraordinary wealth of information and perspective we have at our fingertips. My friends and I don’t do that, but we do congratulate each other all the time on how exceptionally young we all look.
It’s got to come down to trust. Girls en masse can be scary. I’d rather deal with a group of drunk men in a pub than walk through a gang of teenage girls on a dark night. Whose stomach hasn’t hit the floor at the prospect of a hen weekend at some spa with one close girl mate — the bride — and eight other women you’ve never met? For dolliness to work, it must be based on discretion (or, as Samantha in SATC would say: “In our group, we never kiss’n’tell!”), honesty, inclusiveness. Oh, and obviously competitiveness is out, at least in theory.
“In the same boat with a lotta your friends,” sings Dolly in 9 to 5. “Waiting for the day your ship’ll come in /And the tide’s gonna turn /And it’s all gonna roll your way.”
Dolly knows that whatever your circumstances, life is hard, complicated and tiring. You can love men, live for them, but what a relief it is sometimes to be around people you don’t need to be anything with. At that karaoke party, there was a moment when one of our number, a girl who’d been having an extremely complicated time, stood swaying in front of the screen, lost to the world and
I Think We’re Alone Now by Tiffany. Don’t cringe — she looked more at ease with herself than I’d seen her in ages, and long before everything started to go south.
“There’s that feeling when we’re all on the train,” says Lawrenson. “Oh my God, we’re on our way! Then it’s champagne and being inappropriate, and it’s a relief. Afterwards, when you’re home again and you’re putting the kids to bed, you’ll be knackered, but because it only happens now and again, it doesn’t matter. And the next morning, we’ll be on the phone, doing the postmortem, like we’re 22 again.” We all know what Dolly would think of that.
Courtesy: TimesOnline
The curse of early marriage
July 26, 2008
From The Financial Express
Fatema Sultana.
At 15 Jolly was preparing for her SSC exams. She never set for the tests. The teenager instead was married off to become a houswife. Although her parents boast of having a rich son-in-law, they have never tried to know whether their daughter is at all happy with a husband double her age.
“I feel ashamed to say that I have never enjoyed sex with this man although we have already got a baby boy from the marriage. The physical relation is a torture for me,” said Jolly, who still looks a quiet shy girl.
She said the matter is so personal that she could not share it with anybody else and she nurses a grievance against her husband for destroying her life.
Jolly said she had no idea about sex and reproductive health before their marriage and her 36-year-old husband, Jamil Ahmed, did never brief her about it. “In the early days of my marriager I showed little interest in sex. But when I caught up with the libido I was disappointed to find my husband unable to satisfy me,” Jolly said.
Jolly continued: In our society girls are, in fact, helpless. They have nothing to do after marriage. A man kicks out his wife when he finds her unacceptable. But a girl cannot, no matter whether he is sexually fit or impotent.
Jolly’s case is far from unique. There are many young Bangladeshi women like her who are simply accustomed to following orders and tolerating arbitrary treatment both in their father’s house and that of their husbands.
According to a UNICEF report, ‘Adolescent Girls in Bangladesh’, Bangladesh is a country where many girls are married off before they experience their first menstruation. The boys also marry early. Poor families start thinking about the marriage of their boys as soon as they reach adolescence.
The Geometric and Health Survey 1996-97 showed that 5 percent of 10-14 age group and 48 percent of the 15-19 age group of people in Bangladesh are married. The rate is much higher than that of a survey on marriage conducted by Bangladesh Bureau of Statistics in 1998.
The Bureau survey revealed that 2 percent of the 10-14 age group boys and girls and 27 percent of the 15-19 age group boys and girls were already married till 1998. The marriage rates of boys and girls are 1 and 3 percent respectively.
The Geometric and Health Survey mentioned that girls in urban areas compared to rural areas and the girls who have secondary-level education compared to illiterate ones are married off at relatively higher age.
It also said the age gap between husbands and wives is 7-9 and sometimes 12-13 and this wide gap of age is traditionally considered necessary by guardians to keep women under control, ignoring the fact that it might cause misunderstanding in conjugal life.
The UNICEF survey highlighted that the unusual gap in the age of husband and wife may cause various troubles, ranging from sexual relation to reproductive health, in one’s conjugal life. “Even it may cause maternal death,” the study said.
Another survey conducted during 1976-85 showed that the mortality rate of the 15-19 age group girls is higher than that of the 20-34 age group ones.
As per the country’s existing law, girls under 18 while boys under 21 are not eligible to get married.
Talking about the law, Senior Advocate of the Bangladesh Supreme Court Hasan Ali said the law was enacted in 1929 to control early marriage but few people have respect to it. Half the country’s total girls are married off well before 18 because they are treated as burden of the family in our male-dominated society, he said.
In most cases, Ali said, no legal action can be taken in such marriages because it’s difficult to determine one’s age to go for action, as birth registration system has not developed in our country yet.
The country has a birth registration law but it has become outdated as it was enacted in 1873. “To involve the village guards and midwives in the process of birth registration, the law urgently needs to be amended because birth registration can help control early marriage,” Ali said.
In discussion with the News Network correspondent many experts, including teachers and human rights activists, said early marriage in Bangladesh cannot be controlled for various reasons. They said there is a provision in the existing law to take consent of the girl before her marriage but the guardians hardly feel the necessity to consult their daughter before settling her marriage.
In over 50 percent cases, the brides have no idea with whom their marriages are settled by their parents and trying to know about it is still considered as the audacity of the girls, they said emphasising the importance of carrying out vigorous campaign against early marriage.
Describing the adverse effects of early marriage, Dr Syema Ahmed, a gynecologist, said when an adolescent girl is married off with a middle-aged man the immediate problem is misunderstanding.
In such unequal marriage, she said, the couple, particularly the girl, can never be sexually happy because of communication gap and other biological reasons. “A girl gets frustrated day by day when she continues to feel that she is not getting that much affection and passion what she expects from her husband. A relatively older man cares little about his wife’s desire,” said Dr Syema.
She said: A man needs to understand that to establish a healthy sexual relationship with his wife, a pre-sex understanding is essential, or else, she may feel it as torture. So relatively equal age of marriage is more helpful to live a happy conjugal life.
Dr Syema said there are a section of perverted men in our society who think comparatively younger girls can give maximum sexual pleasure. “This is wrong. There is no credit to unilaterally enjoy sex depriving the wife. It must be bilateral to save the relation,” she said.
Dr Jhunu Shamsun Nahar, a psychiatrist, said that in an unequal age of marriage the girl is the worst sufferer. “Its adverse effects are both metal and physical. A girl can develop a serious mental problem due to continued depression caused by her unhappy conjugal life.
Citing various case studies, Dr Nahar said most unequal age of marriages end up in divorce or separation and it’s the girl who continues to suffer after the collapse of marriage, as the husband does not feel the necessity to bear her maintenance after divorce.
“Among the things needed to overcome the problem are economic emancipation of the women and change in the attitude of men towards women,” she said. — NewsNetwork
Working women versus full-time mothers
July 20, 2008
Working women versus full-time mothers
The choices women make
SUPAWADEE INTHAWONG
BangkokPost
Many mothers find that one of the most difficult decisions is to choose between a career and full-time motherhood.
Many families feel that it is necessary to have both parents working full time. And because of the high divorce rate and growing number of single parent families, more and more mothers are heading to work full time and over time.
People may think that women who quit their jobs and become a home-maker are women at dead-end jobs, with no career goals. However, in many cases women who establish successful careers are often the most eager to stay home.
Sriwika Susanpoolthong, 32, a former production control manager of one of the biggest electricity companies in the Kingdom, said she wanted to leave her high-paying job and become a a full-time mother, as she wanted to be a part of her child’s early years.
“I didn’t have a nanny problem, because my mother was willing to take care of my daughter. But I wanted to spend more time with my child – it was my job as a mother. I struggled with inflexible work schedules and long separations from my baby. I was frustrated because I was missing the opportunity to watch my baby’s first steps.
“In the morning I had only 15 minutes to be with my daughter before I went to work. At night I spent only a hour with her before bedtime and could not be with her even when she was sick. So, I decided to quit my job and become a full-time mother,” said Sriwika.
Now, though she is a home-maker, she still works part-time as a Japanese translator and interpreter. Her family also supports her decision.
“My husband and I agreed that the first three years was the most important time in our child’s life, so giving up a large amount of financial security was no issue. Our financial situation does not interfere with our spending because we are careful. “I’m also thinking of going back to work once my girls starts going to school. With my fluently Japanese skills, it will not be difficult for me to find another job after a long gap,” said Sriwika.
This joy however, is not shared by all women.
“I love my kids and want to be with them but I feel bad to let my husband to be the only financial contributor in family. I have to keep in mind that I’m not lazy if I stay home to take care of my kids,” said one mother, who decline to be named.
After being a home-maker for more than two years, she decided to send her children to nursery and started work as an accountant.
“My husband is able to support the family by himself, but I feel better when I have a job. I choose to work at home because I still can take care of my kids after they’re back from school,” she said.
Warapa Buranasamrit, a secretary of Rangsit University dean, Dr Arthit Ourairat, said she must be one the luckiest mothers because her boss understands her situation and allows her to work at home and come into the office two or three times a week.
“I have a daughter and am going to have another baby. I often suffer from morning sickness and can’t go to the office for many days on end. I decided to give up job due to my condition, but my boss was willing to hire an assistant to reduce my workload. He also lets me work from home and only go to work when and if necessary,” said Warapa.
Warapa said her daughter used to suffer from slow development. “But ever since I began spending time with her, she has improved.”